Friendship is the sincerest compliment I can offer. Typically when I meet someone I analyze them, seeking to categorize them and determine how they might act in a given situation. I am not always right and evaluations are subject to change but I am apt to classify them all the same.


Should I define you too quickly, we may become acquaintances of a type but we will likely not become friends. With my friends I require a degree of complexity, layers. I do want the comfort of reliability without however the kiss of death of predictability and the difference is a fine line.


Friends are forever. Not defined by frequency of contact or distance or even life choices with which one might disagree. Friendship is not questioned, it simply is, and can always be depended on.


The best of my friends have somehow evolved beyond the process of analysis. No longer do I attempt to classify them and place them in a category. The best of friends I acknowledge, accept and indeed love them for whoever they are without having to define them being part of the equation. We pick up where we left off no matter what has transpired since last we communicated. We have a language and history and a sentence started by one can oft be finished by the other. These relationships are defined by a lack of judgment, only acceptance and embrace.


I am blessed to have not only old friends but have found the capacity to accept new ones. They appear as if by magic at a time when the need was present. If you have a friend, someone who you actually have permission to take for granted. Thank them anyway for they are part of your backbone. Thank you friends!

Author: enigmainblackcom

William Spivey is a regular contributor to the Inner-City News where he writes about politics and popular culture. He also blogs as “Enigma in Black” where he explores poetry, religion, politics and all manner of things socially relevant. He is also a contributing Blogger at Together We Stand He is the founder of the Facebook pages Average Citizen Forum, Enigma in Black, and “Strong Beginnings,” the title of his soon to be released Political Fiction/Romance novel. William was the winner of a University-wide Essay Contest while at Fisk University titled, “The Value of a Liberal Arts Education. He holds a B.A. in Economics from Fisk and resides in Orlando, FL. His goal is to make his voice heard and make a difference.

One thought on “Friends”

  1. The Bruhs of Omega Psi Phi have a saying… a motto if you will… “Friendship is essential to the soul” Yes, I would concur. and I would add “Friendship is love in action!” Lovers can come and come and go… But friends are forever.


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