I’m a visual person and I am as guilty as anyone of seeing and wanting someone for no other reason than her exterior appearance. I personally don’t really care about the way her makeup is applied, if she had on stiletto’s or if she wore a designer dress. When I listen to women compliment other women on how they look, it’s generally about things (hair, shoes, outfit) that I care little about. I could tell you however, what it is they’re working with and have often been attracted for those reasons alone. But how does that work out?
Men eventually discover, as many beautiful women can attest to. That physical beauty does not a long-lasting romance make. It seems every outside influence like tv, movies, magazines, friends, and maybe family, push men to pursue the physical and not the mind, and that’s a shame. A body can give great pleasure and for a time one can get caught up in it, but eventually, hopefully, you want more.
I’m still at least a little shallow. When I was twenty, I wanted the woman I wanted when I was twenty. When I was forty, I was still attracted to the same type woman (if you need a visual reference, check out the Bell, Biv, DeVoe, “Poison” video). But I eventually matured to the point where I want, A Woman of a Certain Age with at least one physical feature I can adore. It could be her eyes, smile, face, or perhaps the curve of her breasts. I’m much more concerned with the ease in which we get along and the quality of our conversation.
I’ve fallen in like with a body on more than one occasion. There’s always the chance that one could discover there is a compatible mind as well and everything will work out fine? I submit the route with the better chance of long-term success is to seek out the qualities of the mind that will endure through a lifetime. And if you find a physical feature you adore, that will be just gravy on top!